The Blame Isn’t Yours to Carry

It was a hot and sticky summer afternoon and I was in a room filled to the brim with my fellow incoming freshmen when the keynote speaker came to the front of the lecture hall.   “How do you stop sexual violence from happening?” the speaker asked. A few hands shot up.  “Carry keys with you when you’re walking at night.”  “Never let anyone else touch your drink at...

How to Throw a Punch

A few weeks ago, I was scrolling through Twitter and I stumbled upon a news article about a recent sexual assault case. I read the article and then, against my better judgement, immediately went to go look through the replies to the original tweet.  I was pleasantly surprised to find that nearly all the replies were full of empathy and compassion for the survivor, but there was one comment...

Why I Never Reported and Why It’s My Choice

Recently, the idea of reporting my assault has come up in conversation. I chose not to report my assault. Whether we choose to file a report against our attackers is our choice. No one gets to decide what is right for a survivor.  Unfortunately, people do not understand why survivors of sexual assault choose not to come forward and to be quite frank, it isn’t anyone’s business. We must...

Sex in Quarantine: Virtual Dating can Encourage Consent

Two months ago I graduated college, broke up with my ex-boyfriend/quarantine roommate of two years, moved back in with my parents and frantically downloaded every dating app imaginable. I had no interest in finding another relationship or dating anyone seriously. I needed space to heal from both the loss of a long term relationship and a sexual assault that occurred in October. But casual dating...

A Harrowing Portrait of Institutional Abuse

Gymnastics is a sport notorious for its difficulty. Watching people flying through the air with grace and sticking a landing with poise fills the viewer with a sense of awe, and the amount of effort, training, and discipline required to compete in gymnastics is clear to see. Gymnastics requires more than just physical effort, though. It requires dedication to several practices per day, weight...